We
all believe in the philosophy that the essence of life is talking.
Communicating with others is as necessary as food. If we don’t, we tend
to fall ill. Today people are rarely talking.
Talking about ideas and not people
The
art of conversation has almost died down. People just usually sit and
chat in their office breaks about things that are not even worth
thinking about. Let’s face it; we all are going towards doom where each
one of us is talking to pass/kill time. The art of using communication
is no more existing. People are concerned about others influence in
their lives and not about their influence in others life.
It
is an unbelievable thing that an effective communication through polite
words can have wonderful impact on you and others lives as well. You
can win the hearts of many people, climb the corporate ladder, have
promotions but not have wonderful relationship with people around you.
The
path to a successful life comes thorough the stairs of politeness. An
act of politeness can do wonders that no monetary thing can do. Let us
go deep in the art of efficient speaking by these methods.
It’s
truly said, great minds talk about ideas and small minds talk about
people. Politeness is an attitude of life. Talking about ideas heightens
your politeness towards innovations and stimulates your mind too. This
is effective for the speaker and the listener both. To start talking
about people you can breathe out all negative energies about anyone:
latest crush, which dress she wears, which perfume she uses, her bad
attitude. The idea is that everything you talk about people usually
comes negative. This develops a feeling of self love and comparison at
all means. You do not value your life as much as you do to others.
Using intellect instead of the tongue
Usually
people chatter on at length not worrying about the impact it would have
on others. Since people are so occupied in themselves they’d rather
talk about themselves only. This instigates them to speak rubbish
endlessly. Have you ever thought how much of an impact we can have on
others by our words? By trying to use our brains before speaking, we
will save others sentiments and preserve a healthy relationship between
our near ones.
Avoiding gossip
The
one who usually starts a gossip or backbiting about someone does not
know that he is the one to have the last laugh. People who start
commenting and spreading rumors about others usually end up in a muck of
politics and bickering about themselves from the other end. Such people
should be avoided at arm’s length. Even listening to gossip is as
harmful since the listener had the power to listen to negative
communication. This unhealthy gossiping could have been stopped if the
listener would have ignored the speaker.
Exchange of compliments
We
should not limit our compliment intake be restricted to our close
relatives. People like our helpers such as servants, cleaners, house
maids are those on whom we can count on. Speaking politely to them will
ensure that your day is made. They are the ones who offer your services
to make your life comfortable. So we should make endeavors to enrich
their lives by complimenting and praising them.
Look for positive things in negative people
We
all have negative and positive sides. Nobody on this earth has a
squeaky clean nature. We all have flaws, however some people are
observed negatively by their rude behavior and we become very judgmental
about them putting them in the negative category. We should understand
that people who are rude have their own weaknesses. They do not choose
to be like that. Frustrations at work or domestic front make them act in
this behavior. Such people should be offered more help than others
comparatively. Talking politely with them will make a difference in
their lives and yours too.
Feel positive about you all the time
Quite
often we do not realize that we subconsciously become negative. Pent up
emotions and unfulfilled desires make us behave rudely towards others
and emit negative radiations from the body. Thus we tend to overreact
and become rude and harsh to others in some or the other way. This might
demolish the social circle that we have. So politeness in the hearts at
all means will result in polite attitude.
Whatever
is rested in your heart is bound to come out in the open some or the
other day. Make sure you have a prosperous life with a polite attitude
and selfless love. This will make you immortal in the hearts of millions
as people are going to remember for your polite words and not by your
status.
A
photographer once clicked a photograph of ex-president of India, Dr.
Kalam with a shawl placed on his shoulder. After the photo shoot was
over, the photographer rudely took off the shawl and walked off. The
President smiled. After being asked about his composed behaviouir, he
politely answered that maybe the photographer needed the shawl more than
he did, and continued his work.
People
with big positions come and go but it is only their humble nature that
draws millions of people towards them. Their polite words filled to the
brim with modesty and love melt the hearts of even the rudest amongst
the crowd. By talking politely to all we can make an impact on others
lives.
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